Archive for July, 2011

You know Who Cares?

who cares when you are not happy?
who cares when you are crying secretly?
who cares when you are thinking too much?
who cares when you are nowhere?
who cares when you are heart broken?
who cares when you are regretting for something?
who cares when you are repenting for something?
who cares when you are depressed or disappointed?
who cares when you are all alone???
No one but He…
No matter what’s your religion, He’s always there for you when you call Him.

One who’s far above the sky but then near to your own jugular vein. The only one .. & all you need to find Him..

The song I was listening is inspiration for these lines. Listen Here. For those who don’t understand Urdu or Hindi, English lyrics of this song..
If the destinations get hazy,
lower your sight for a moment,
wherever your head bows down,
there only the way to God is found,
You Change your luck
Be strong, just start moving,
My footprints are your companion
and You don’t know God is nearby..
Just open your Heart window and find Him next to you, cry in front of him and He is the Best Friend; who will keep our secrets to Him.
I love you God for everything.. !! Make me more strong please.

In Regard of Akhtar, Farhan Akhtar

Actor, Director, Producer, Singer – Farhan Akhtar wears many hats and wears them with spirit and style. Farhan Akhtar is one of the most versatile artist in the Bollywood Film Industry. It takes a lot to handle so many different fields, and also doing successfully in those fields.

I am totally in awe of Farhan Akhtar. I love the way he talks…It is something that distinguishes him from the pack…

‘Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara’ (ZNMD) is Farhan Akhtar’s film all the way! He well deserves all the accolades for his perfect comic timing. His comic timing is just flawless in my opinion – trust me, he’ll have you in splits. He’s just too natural and spontaneous… Hrithik looks hot and Abhay looks cute…I love the way Hrithik Roshan carries himself… The man’s got class! Katrina Kaif is obviously gorgeous…flawlessly beautiful…unbelievably beautiful…

ZNMD has the most amazing shaayris.The Akthar family is no doubt talented, with their father Javed Akthar wrote meaningful lyrics and poetry for his son’s character Imran, this is power packed family. They see life openly and differently without any hang ups and they don’t need buckets of tears to prove the emotions. Kudos to Javed Akhtar! This one is my fav:

Jab jab dard ka baadal chaya
Jab ghum ka saya lehraya
Jab aansoo palkon tak aya
Jab yeh tanha dil ghabraya

Humne dil ko yeh samjhaya
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai
Duniya mein yunhi hota hai

Yeh jo gehre sannate hain
Waqt ne sabko hi baante hain
Thoda ghum hai sabka qissa
Thodi dhoop hai sabka hissa
Aankh teri bekaar hi nam hai
Har pal ek naya mausam hai
Kyun tu aise pal khota hai
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai

Life can bring you to a crossroad and sometimes you are not sure which direction to choose because you also suddenly realize that you lived in a box all this time and don’t know how to get out.

Farhan Akhtar is an actor par excellence – I loved him in ‘Rock On’ as well. Also, he is a fantastic director – ‘Lakshya’ and ‘Dil Chahta Hai’ are milestone films. ‘Lakshya’ is one of the most inspiring films ever. It is sad that the film floped at the Box Office.

I guess Akhtar dropped out of college to pursue his dreams. He had the courage and conviction to follow his dreams.

Take a bow, Farhan Akhtar!

Handling Rude Comments (Criticism)

Rude comments are something which we all can face at any time at any place, it hardly matter what job you are doing like you may be a teacher, accountant, writer, engineer, social worker, housewife. Though, nobody likes to hear these comments but still we get them at certain points. Most of the time, these rude comments hurt our feeling and can make us sad. Therefore, it is very important for us to perfectly handle these comments for not allowing them to affect us.

In present life and culture, chances of getting rude comments are more because there are many people in this world who feel jealous of others. Mostly, these people show their frustration by giving rude comments to the other person from whom they are feeling jealous and sometime innocent people also become the victim of these comments for being in the wrong place at wrong time.

It is not possible for any person to stop others from giving rude comments; we can only make changes in our mind conditioning to not get affected with these unwanted rude comments.

Below are few points, by following which people can easily avoid rude comments from hurting them (may not fully but significantly).

  • It is better to prepare yourself for criticism even before other people criticize you with rude comments.
  • Always expect some kind of criticism for your work.
  • Try to indulge sometime in self criticism.
  • Feel sympathetic with the person criticising or giving rude comments because something is wrong with him emotionally.
  • Feel better on being criticised because at least you have something in you which many other do not have.
  • Remember this fact that majority of the criticisms emerge from Jealousy and there are people jealous of your progress.
  • Remember criticism hurts the person himself more than whom he is criticising.
  • Feel happy that people criticising you are actually afraid of your increasing value.
  • Remember many people criticising you may not actually know they are criticising you.
  • Most of the criticisms emerge from failures and frustrations; therefore there is no need of taking them seriously.
  • Criticisms sometime help you in identifying your mistakes.
  • Some criticisms and rude comments which we get are after effects of our own criticisms and rude comments, therefore avoid giving rude comments to others.
  • Remember that nobody comes in to this world in perfect state and we only become perfect by making number of mistakes.

Toyota Develops Car Crash Avoidance System

Car accidents are one of the highest causes of deaths in India. Carmakers have been working hard to increase the safety features in their vehicles and the results are becoming more evident with time. Most safety features developed in Europe and America are now slowly trickling down to cars sold in India. Now We have more and more air bags, ABS is available in both cars and bikes and advanced features are now available in high-end models.

Toyota, the Japanese auto major has also made new inventions to improve the safety of vehicle users. Toyota has now developed a crash avoidance system that is some what similar to the one developed by Volvo. Volvo uses infra red technology to detect vehicles around the car and applies emergency breaks whenever it detects a possibility of a crash.

Toyota has not given the technical details of its crash avoidance system. The system will use both front and rear cameras along with a wave radar technology to asses the presence of obstacles and pedestrians around the car.

One of the highlights of Toyota’s crash avoidance system is that once the system detects a possibility of a collision it takes control of the steering wheel to avoid a crash rather than stopping the car. Toyota is also said to have developed a system that will pop the bonnet up in case of a crash. Another innovative safety technology being developed by Toyota is a device in the steering wheel that will measure the heart rate of the driver and avoid a crash when the driver suffers a heart attack.

Toyota has not revealed when it will add the safety features in its models. Considering the cost of developing these technologies is high, Toyota might provide these safety features as options only. However with several safety related complaints against Toyota in the US hampering its clean image, the Japanese carmaker might even consider introducing these safety features in its volume selling models.

Table Manners Around the World

If you grew up in the United States and thought American table manners were tough to remember—Keep your elbows off the table!  Don’t talk with your mouth full! Always pass the salt and pepper together!—think again, because you don’t know how good you’ve got it.

Just try eating a “casual” group dinner in one of these other countries, where the slightest indiscretion with a pair of chopsticks or the position of your feet can land you in the doghouse with your host.

Dinner guests are treated like royalty: they’re seated farthest from the door, they’re offered food first and expected to eat the most, and they’re always given the prime portion from each dish.
If you drop bread on the floor while dining at a table, pick it up, kiss it, and touch it to your forehead before putting it somewhere other than the floor.


Dishes should be served from the left and removed from the right. Guests should be served first.
Do not answer the phone at the dinner table. Always chew with your mouth closed, and do not talk until it is empty.
Eat quietly and do not slurp your food.
Eat only one helping of food, unless the host specifically encourages you to take second.

Before you commence a meal, wait for your host to tell you three times to begin eating. The youngest person at the table should pour alcohol for the other diners, beginning with the most senior person. A senior should then pour the server’s beverage.
Never transfer food from one pair of chopsticks to another. When women transfer food with chopsticks from a serving dish to their mouth, they should cup their hand beneath the food; men should not.
Rubbing chopsticks together to remove splinters is a sign of disrespect to the restaurant or host.
When eating hot noodles, you are encouraged to make a slurping noise; the Japanese believe that this inhalation of air enhances the noodles’ flavour. Pieces of sushi should be eaten in a single bite whenever possible; if you must eat a piece in more than one bite, never place it back down on your plate between bites.

Never wave chopsticks at another person, bang them like drumsticks, use them to move plates or bowls, or stab them vertically into a bowl of rice. This last gesture indicates that the food is meant for the dead.
To serve a guest, use the blunt ends of your own chopsticks to transfer food from a communal dish to the guest’s plate.
When chopsticks are not in use, place them neatly on the table, side by side, with the ends even. When picking food out of a communal dish, select only food that is on the top of the pile and the closest distance to your plate.


Always wash your hands thoroughly before and after eating.
In general, eat with your right hand and use your left hand to pass communal dishes. You must finish everything on your plate.
Do not leave the table until all guests have finished eating or your host asks for your help.

Before each meal, Muslim Pakistanis always recite this phrase: “Bismillah Ar-Rahman al-Rahim.” (“In the name of Allah, who is most beneficial and merciful.”) Afterward, they say, “Al-Hamdu-lillah.” (“Thanks be to God.”)
Do not begin eating until the eldest member of the family is seated at the table. Always chew quietly enough that no one else can hear you.
Always tear bread into pieces before eating it, and use only your right hand.

Before you enter a dining room, select a seat at a table, always wait for an invitation from the host. Never refuse a sample of food from the host; always clean your plate.
When you have finished eating, place your fork and spoon side by side on your plate, facing up. Always help your host clear the table.

Never stare at another person’s plate or saucer. It is polite to leave a little bit of food on your plate at the end of a meal, as a tribute to the host’s abundant hospitality.
Always cultivate a vivacious, relaxed dining atmosphere. Upon leaving the table, always compliment the person who cooked your food.

Do not expose the soles of your feet if you are eating on a carpet or mat. Showing up early for dinner is considered rude; aim to arrive fifteen to thirty minutes late.

It may seem daunting to remember other cultures’ eating particularities, but if you master these dining guidelines before you sit down at the table, you won’t have to be “that guy”—you know, the one who gives other, more polite American diners a bad name. And once  you’ve mastered these etiquette basics, you’ll be on your way to worldliness—all you need now is a good appetite and a plane ticket. 🙂

Indian Obsession with Fair Skin

Why is fair skin the barometer of beauty? Does this question come in your mind too?

Sushmita Sen

I like Sushmita Sen for her individuality and of course her dusky looks. Same goes for Konkana Sen and Nandita Das, but still the fair skinned Aishwarya Rai Bachchan and Katrina etc are  the queens of bollywood. Ash is talented and got ample opportunity to show her versatility but the three dusky Bong beauties are no less. It’s about opportunity, which does sometimes  come from popularity. Popularity, which is depicted from the success of a movie seen by the masses. Masses want to see fair skinned ladies.

In one of the advertisement on TV one actress of bollywood, who has always, always flaunted her sun kissed skin tone with style ; she has carried her natural eye brows (which seem to be joining slightly from the middle) ; she is no size zero and we just love her for her vivaciousness and spontaniety…. could you guess…. She is Kajol!!

But when I saw her in Olay Total Effects (Anti Ageing cream) advertisement, she donned a fair look, of course by applying make up! And the fair – so fair and so chalky white look, that I couldn’t believe it was her. It’s only her signature style of eye brows and bright eyes, due to which I could recognize her. Ironically, in another advt (Knorr soup) she does not put make up and looks natural and nice, so what happened to Olay effect now?!

Kajol(In Olay Effects Ad)

I was saddened. Does she really needed to work for this Advt. and show that fairness is what she’s got after using this product? A healthy, problem free skin doesn’t mean it has to be low on melanin? Could she not have flaunted her wheatish complexion, which still radiates and shows her good health? And is beauty just skin deep?

A fair-skinned person is considered attractive regardless of whether that person has a symmetrical face or a healthy figure. I’ve noticed that certain people who would not be considered attractive in the United States are considered beautiful in India because of their light skin. The flip side is that some who are considered unattractive because of darker skin would be considered attractive in countries outside of India. The equation is simple: In India, light skin equals beauty.

I, like all of you, have seen those endless number of ‘fair n lovely’ kind of advts all my life. Want success, be fair skinned….. want confidence….. want acceptability in profession…… want your lover to propose you…. use fairness cream!!  So fair skin is the mantra, no marks to talent, no marks to over-all personality, nothing to do with your attitude…. have fair skin….. be the undisputed charmer!!  The craze for fair skin is so much, especially in north of India, you got to see the matrimonial advts in newspapers… people especially ask for fair and slim brides!!! Phew!

Why don’t Indians understand that brown is beautiful? White people spend hours on the beach and put on a hundred creams to get tanned. And in winter they even artificially lie under infrared lamps in beauty parlors to get brown! Wake up India, brown is beautiful, smart and it is the future.

Now, even the market is hotting up for men too.  There are many brands who are selling fairness creams for men.  What happened to the rugged look of men? All groomed with manicure and pedicure and facial?

Indians you are as great, if not greater than the white man. Not only you people are among the most brilliant in the world today — half of Silicon Valley is of Indian origin, 30 percent of the United Kingdom’s doctors are Indians.There is nothing to be ashamed because you are dark but be proud of what you are and your inner qualities.

The question is that why are we Indians so obsessed with fair skin? Why do we still drool over the colour of the skin, as if the colour of the skin translated to power? Has it not got etched in our psyche somewhere so deep, because the whites rules us for ages, so somewhere, we have accepted that fairness means being superior?  Has complexion not got a lot with how people treat you? Is it not surprising? What is your experience? Have you ever experienced any such thing? Do share with me.

Is Woman Really Free?

No more eyebrows are raised at the thought of a woman going out to work. Thanks to the various organizations, authors and feministic critics who have struggled a lot for the freedom of woman.

Apparently a woman is free enough to pursue her wishes.She has ventured and succeeded in all the fields of knowledge. In the present state of society, woman is walking equal steps to man. Women’s position, both inside and outside the house, has been changed and elevated from that of the position what our grandmother and mother had tolerated. But if the entire situation is placed under scrutiny then an altogether different picture will appear before us. Actually we will find that the position of women is no better than before.

Still in India the birth of a baby-boy to a baby-girl gives more pleasure to many parents. There are many such parents who pamper their sons while deprive their daughters from basic needs. It is believed that women are weak, both physically and mentally.Though the mental strength of women varies but the fact of feminine physical weakness, cannot be ruled out completely. The biological structure of women has tied their hands. For men she has always been an object of lust and desire. Her structure itself has prohibited women from many activities. A woman cannot travel alone at night or she cannot go to any unknown places. Woman is always exposed to the risk of deflowering.

All along women are taught to acquire the so-called qualities of a woman like susceptibility of heart, delicacy of sentiment and refinement of taste which are again synonymous with label of weakness. It is expected that a girl should be a goddess of meekness and mercy. It is as if the duty of women to forgive men for any of their crimes. Again the qualities like bravery, courage and rashness are called masculine. The girl’s formal lessons at home prepares her to acquire the femininity.

In a woman’s life marriage plays a very crucial role.A lot of changes take place in her life. They face a different situation in life. But their slavery only changes from their father to husband. As before marriage a girl is supposed to listen to her father so after marriage a good wife should listen to her husband. All the vital decisions of the house are always taken by the male members of the family. Marriage itself is an institution of intolerance.

In many countries, still men and women are paid unequal wages for equal works. If it is seen honestly, we will find that women work more than men. In case of working women, the problem is worse. They have to do all the works, both inside and outside of the house. Moreover they have the additional work of child bearing, giving birth and rearing it.

Women face various kinds of hurdles in their life but domestic violence add to their woes. Domestic violence is prevalent in the lower class of people. Women have to withstand extreme punishments. There is no relief from her agonies.

There is a notion that women enhance the beauty of the house. Many women are also with this kind of concept. They find pleasure in thinking themselves the queen of the house.But actually their activities are only the outcome of their husband’s wishes. Housewives are financially dependent on their husbands. Even working women are not fully independent.


Is there any end of this lifelong oppression? When would they actually be free? Free of injustice and domination?

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