Archive for October, 2011

When God’s Timing Is Taking Too Long

We all want good things to happen in our lives, but too often we want it now…not later. When it doesn’t happen that way, we are tempted to ask, “When, God, when?” Most of us need to grow in the area of trusting God instead of focusing on the “when” question. If you’re missing joy and peace, you’re not trusting God. If your mind feels worn out all the time, you’re not trusting God.

I finally learned to trust the One who knows all things and accept that some questions may never be answered. We prove that we trust God when we refuse to worry.

We spend a lot of time in our lives waiting because change is a process. Many people want change, but they don’t want to go through the waiting process. But the truth is, waiting is a given—we are going to wait. The question is, are we going to wait the wrong or right way? If we wait the wrong way, we’ll be miserable; but if we decide to wait God’s way, we can become patient and enjoy the wait. It takes practice, but as we let God help us in each situation, we develop patience, which is one of the most important virtues. It’s developed only under trial, so we must not run from difficult situations.

As we develop patience, we finally feel completely satisfied. Even our relationship with God involves changes.Every change I’ve gone through has made me more mature, solid and well-grounded. We learn to trust God by going through many experiences that require trust. It is easy to see how timing plays an important part in learning to trust God. If He did everything we asked for immediately, we would never grow and develop. Timing and trust work side by side.

God gives us hopes and dreams for certain things to happen in our lives, but He doesn’t always allow us to see the exact timing of His plan. There are times when we might give up if we knew how long it was going to take, but when we accept God’s timing, we can learn to live in hope and enjoy our lives while God is working on our problems. We know that God’s plan for our lives is good, and when we entrust ourselves to Him, we can experience total peace and happiness.

“Due time” is God’s time, when God knows we’re ready, not when we think we’re ready. The sooner we understand and accept that, the sooner God can work His plan in our lives.

We all don’t live in the same season at the same time. You should never be jealous of someone who is enjoying harvest while you’re still in the planting season. Remember, they had to go through a season of planting just as you are. Understand and trust that God is doing the very best for you in your present season.

Are you tired of waiting for harvesttime in your life? Are you frustrated, crying out, “When, God, when?” Then you need to understand that God’s timing is often a mystery. He doesn’t do things on our timetable. Yet His Word promises that He will not be late, not one single day.

God causes things to happen at exactly the right time! The more you trust God and keep your eyes focused on Him, the more life you’ll have. Trusting God brings life. Believing brings rest. So stop trying to figure everything out, and let God be God in your life. 

 

The Story of Life…

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, to teach you a lesson or to help you figure out who you are, or who you want to become.

You never know who these people may be, possibly your roommate, neighbor, coworker, long-lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger, but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.

Sometimes in life, things may happen to you that seem horrible, painful, and unfair, but in reflection, you find that without overcoming those obstacles, you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart. “If you want a rainbow, you have to put up with the rain.”

Everything happens for a reason, nothing by chance or by means of luck, it happens because it is meant to be. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity, all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road leading to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, yet dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet that will affect your life, will be the success and downfalls you experience though out life, they are who will help you create the person you will grow to become, even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are the most important experiences because, “Failure teaches success.”

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open you heart, how you must only give to the ones who are worthy of being loyal.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but also because in a way they are teaching you about how to love, have trust and about loyalty. Give them that chance to give and receive what they deserve for and from you. “Everything in life is temporary because everything changes, that’s why it takes great courage to love, knowing it might end anytime, but having the faith that it will last forever.”

Make everyday count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything you possibly can because that may be the only time in your life you will ever have that experience.

Let yourself live, love, and break free, make no boundaries, for you can accomplish anything as long as your heart is into it. This is your life, you run the show! Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a special individual and there is no other out there the same as you. Believe in yourself, for it will be hard for others to believe in you. “If you don’t stand up for something, you will fall for anything”. You are in control and you can create your own life, so take chances, and go out and live it with absolutely no regret. “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be”.

Most importantly, if you love someone tell him or her, for you never know what tomorrow will bring. Don’t let one moment pass because it could change you forever. Don’t ever fear life, because “What doesn’t kill you will only make you stronger”. Learn a valuable lesson in each day that you live. “The rich person is not who has the most but who needs the least”.

Life is too short to take seriously, so remember to begin each day with a smile…”Never frown, you never know who might be falling in love with your smile.” Everyone who walks through your door will make you happy, some on the way in and some on the way out…but always remember to leave the door to your heart open because you never know what may come your way. Believe in Karma, because what comes around really does go around.

Develop Understanding Not Misunderstanding…

We all are blessed with a lot of beautiful relationships in our life, few are the ones we are born with and there are others that we make on our own..whatever be the name,whatever be the reason the bottom line is they all are very important to us. They are the ties that join our hearts and make us realize that we are not alone.

A friend of mine once told me “we all are capable of living alone, statements like this that we can’t live without so and so are rubbish..when we have to ,then we have to..there is no room for weakness then..our survival instincts keep us going..”
Partially I agree with her that yes when we have to then we have to and of course we can survive..but then its just survival, its not living…

Living is when you can smile seeing somebody else happy,somebody Else’s grief brings tears to your eyes, you rejoice in somebody Else’s success..a life lived for and with others is a life lived worthwhile.

And today these bondings of the heart and relationships of years break in seconds.. Reason??? MISUNDERSTANDING!

What is misunderstanding? When we try to convey something and something else gets conveyed, ideas get jumbled up, misconceptions are formed and we chose to drift away from people whom we least want to. For me misunderstanding has its literal meaning ..yes..its not a wrong interpretation of thought,words or intentions but a lack of understanding as the word rightly conveys- the understanding is missing and this takes place when we stop listening,we stop talking,we stop thinking, when we stop making that extra effort to go a little deep into things and taking that extra step and conveniently accept what appears on the surface..and let go off our precious ones. I guess all of us have misunderstood someone or the other in our life or have been misunderstood by someone. Communication is the answer but so does an explanation always justify everybody..  may be not..and at times a wrong question asked in a wrong manner,at the wrong time proves to be the biggest question mark on a relationship and the trust on which it is formed, may leave behind a scar forever and apologies and time don’t always heal all wounds.

So if you say to someone “I trust you” then make sure you do.
If you say “I understand” then at least try to.
If you say “I am there” then show that you care.

We all have some beautiful bonds with some beautiful people in our lives. Lets value those special souls and those special relationships and handle them with love and care and not allow a stupid misunderstanding to creep in and create distance between hearts because if we let that happen then later we might be missing the only person who understood us…….!

P.S : It sounds like a serious post, but witnessed a few people ruining their relationships, losing their special people and saying “there had been some misunderstanding”…sounds simple but is hell difficult when we have to go through it. I know everything in life does not have a solution and not everybody is worth staying in our lives but as the famous saying goes “Sometime later we realize that we lost diamond while we were busy collecting stones”. So be careful..don’t take your loved ones for granted and show them that you value them and remember no misunderstanding is bigger than a true relationship.. [sorry for a boring lecture…just wanted to share an opinion]..God bless you all !!

Thinking about Problem vs Thinking about Solution

There are lot of times when things change in our life. One day we have something and the other day, its gone.

Whenever problems come in our life , the following two categories of people act/react differently

1) Category 1 : They will keep on cribbing as to why problem has occurred.
2) Category 2 : They realize that the problem has occurred and think about the best solution for that problem.

People in category 1 keep on thinking about the problem while the people in category 2 realize the problem and think only about the solution.

Let’s consider a situation and see how people in both categories in act/react in those situations

  • On losing your job

People on category 1 will keep on thinking like ” Why only me ?? What bad have I done to other people ? How will I manage my expenses ? What will happen to my family ?? How will I face my friends? What I get fired from next job also? “

People in category 2 will be thinking like  ” Now that this job is gone, I have to take care of my expenses, family and other stuff. Its time to find another job as soon as possible. I should talk to my friends if they know of any job openings. This time I should take care that I don’t make the same mistakes which I did in my last job. Its time to move on.”

While the people in category 1 think of tough situations as problems, people in category 2 think of the tough situation as opportunity, opportunity to learn, learn from your mistakes and situation. This reminds me of my manager who always used to say “Think more about the solutions than problems.” Infact never call anything situation as a problem but a challenge or an opportunity. You can always try it and you will see that whenever you think about problem you feel negative while thinking about solution makes you feel positive and more energetic.

It’s not easy to be in category 2. It’s easier said than done but its not something you can’t do. Its part of your attitude towards life which if practiced can surely be changed.

Do you belong to category 1 or category 2 ? If you belong to category 1 then its never too late to move to category 2. I am also practicing to be in category 2 🙂

When Things Aren’t Right

There are times in life when we really can’t pinpoint what is wrong but we have a feeling that things just aren’t right. During these times we may feel uneasy. During these times we may feel a little stressed. During these times we may get angry quick. During these times we may not be able to know exactly why but we feel like we are a little out of control.

When things aren’t right in our minds and we can’t seem to focus on exactly what we need to do to fix things, we have a great resource where we can go to help us. God knows all we need. He knows exactly what is going on. He knows what has happened and what will going to happen. All we have to do when we feel things aren’t going right is to pray, listen, trust and to obey.

“Lead me in the right path, O Lord, or my enemies will conquer me. Make your way plain for me to follow.”

When we pray to God asking Him to help us get through this feeling of uneasiness, we can give Him control of the situation. We can give Him our uneasiness and tell Him we are turning it over to Him. We can tell Him we know how great He is and we are going to do whatever He wants us to do.

When we listen to what He tells us, we will know what things He wants us to do. We can know these things by reading His words. We can know these things by quietly sitting and waiting on His voice to speak to us through our minds. We can know the things He wants us to do by looking for opportunities in our daily lives to help others.

When we trust in Him, we will not feel the anxiety any longer. When we give Him all our concerns, our worries, our doubts, we will feel free again. We will be able to do whatever we need to do while He handles the hard part. He will take care of all things when we give these things to Him.

When we take action through obedience, God will know we are truly trusting in Him and obeying His word. Taking action isn’t always easy but when we pray, trust and listen we can know we are doing what God wants.

Some times when we feel things are just not right, That is when we should pray asking God for guidance, listen to His answers, trust Him to help us and obey His commands. Then we will be able to let go and let God be in control. When we let go of the frustrations of the world, the worries of the day and the uneasy feelings we get about others and ourselves, God can work through us and make a difference.

My Favorite Steve Jobs Quotes

So who don’t know about him, he’s the name of success and greatness in his field. Steve Jobs.. to run a company like Apple and make it outstanding and the best, who transformed the worlds of personal computing, music and mobile phones, left us on Wednesday October 5th, 2011 at the age of 56 after a years-long battle with pancreatic cancer. It’s a big loss for Apple and for IT industry and every fan of Steve Jobs. So just for a tribute to Steve, I want to share some great quotes of Steve Jobs.

  1. A lot of companies have chosen to downsize, and maybe that was the right thing for them. We chose a different path. Our belief was that if we kept putting great products in front of customers, they would continue to open their wallets.
  2. Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.
  3. Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.
  4. People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully.
  5. To turn really interesting ideas and fledgling technologies into a company that can continue to innovate for years, it requires a lot of disciplines.
  6. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
  7. Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
  8. That’s been one of my mantras — focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.
  9. Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.
  10. Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me … Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.
  11. Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.

We’ll miss you Steve. May Your Soul Rest in Peace.

Men Are Like…

Men Are Like…

Mascara! They usually run at the first sign of emotion.

Men are like…..Government Bonds. They take so long to mature!

Men are like…..Parking Spots. The good ones are taken!

Men are like… Horoscopes. They always tell you what to do and are usually wrong!

MEN!
They sweep you off your feet then try to hand you the broom!

QUICKFIRE

Why do men want to marry virgins?
They can’t stand criticism. 

What’s the fastest way to a man’s heart?
Through his chest with a sharp knife.

What are two reasons why men don’t mind their own business?

1. No mind. 2. No business.

How do men sort their laundry?
“Filthy” and “Filthy but Wearable”

Why don’t men have mid-life crises?
They stay stuck in adolescence!

What makes men chase women they have no intention of marrying?
The same urge that makes dogs chase cars, they have no intention of driving!

Why do bachelors like smart women?
Opposites attract.

Why do men find it difficult to make eye contact?
Breasts don’t have eyes. 🙂 

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