Archive for January, 2012

You Can Mislead the World, You Cannot Escape Karma

Next time you do something that goes contrary to your conscience, spare some thought.

EVERY action, good or bad, evil or kind has a consequence.

For instance, if you bring misery upon someone, it will come back to you MULTIPLIED, in this lifetime or in successive births, come, it will. What goes around definitely comes around – it is my driving belief.

You cannot get away with your wrong deeds, you just cannot escape the shackles of Karma. You can deceive the world; however, you cannot deceive your conscience and you certainly cannot escape Karma. The law of Karma spares none!

I am convinced that I have done good deeds in my past life because I’m born to beautiful parents in this life. I couldn’t have asked God for better parents; I belong to a wonderful family and I attribute it to Karma! I am sure I have been a good person in my past life that I am reaping the benefits in this life.

Yes, bad things happen to good people and the only logical explanation for it is Karma! And this is my personal belief. Contrary to popular perception, Karma is not about punishment and reward; simply, it is about the consequences of your actions.

I believe in the law of cause and effect – As you sow, so shall you reap! 

Ego-‘Big Social Problem in India’

The ego is one of the most self-destructive mechanisms of a person’s character and his or her abilities. The ego is that which separates you from the Reality, from the Truth, from the ultimate Source. A person becomes a slave to his ego when he thinks of selfish gains. On the one hand, he is pulled by his selfish desires, and on the other, he is alarmed by his inner voice.

Ego driven people continually live in the past and always plan for the future. They never live in the moment. They are always thinking of the next great phase of their life, even when this one is perfect. 

In India, Ego can be termed as a big social problem. Most of the people are highly egoistic and did not want to compromise on it. Especially people, who rise to higher ranks or get high positions in society or become rich starts classifying themselves as different class of people than the rest of people. There are many examples where people use their power to exploit other because only they want to satisfy their own ego. Ego clash can be seen among people of same class. People are usually hurrying to criticize others, only because these people have hurt their ego.

In office rivalries are mostly result of hatreds grown due to ego clashes. Many bosses in Indian offices are more concerned with their own ego satisfaction rather than the benefits of company or government.

Ego problems are not restrained only up to office or societies but they are very well present inside Indian homes. Ego problems can be seen between all the relations of Father-son, husband-wife, brother-brother or brother-sister, no relations are left alone by the ego problem.In countries like America, the couples do household works together, but it is not the case in India. Here, women have to do the household works alone while the husbands sit in front of the TV or read the newspaper slouching in a couch. There are , of course, husbands who help wives, but majority of husbands fall into the other category. 

With the advent of new technologies and advancement in higher education, these problems are becoming even worse. Now days, a small school going boy or girl also have big ego to satisfy.  It looks that people have forgotten the art of forgiving and respect for others. We are only and only concerned with our and only our ego.

The most important step towards self-transformation is to shed one’s ego. When you can learn to let go of the ego, the level of success and fulfillment you will achieve will be dramatic.

Know Your Own Self Worth

In life one may travel a lot, may go places, have loads of experiences, good or bad, but one should never lose sight of who you are and what is the self worth.

“I am unique, I am worth it and I deserve much more”.

The way forward to our own true life, is from the inside. Get to know and love yourself.

If we allow our value to be determined by others, by how useful we are to them, we may find our self constantly running around taking care of them, trying to prove our worth. Our energy will be spent proving our worthiness to others.

We have the power completely within us to decide how to see and treat our self. If we first decide and appreciate our talent, capabilities and intelligence, it will be easier for others to see these parts of us. It means knowing our good points and also knowing our points needing improvement. It means knowing how to take a compliment and accept a thank you. It means having pride in our accomplishments but without arrogance. Arrogance is the polar opposite of humility; it is thinking we are better than we really are.

One of the most common things people tend to base their concept of self worth on, is the job they do. OK fine, but what happens if one cannot do the job anymore? 
What happens when one retires? 
What happens if one becomes or was born, disabled, and all the “jobs” are no longer possible? 
Now, does this mean that one no longer has any self worth? 
Well, in the eyes of some people,…. But, important fact here, in your own eyes, has anything changed. 

So what’s my point? One’s self worth does not, or should not, depend on anything or anyone, outside of one self.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

The reality is, our self-worth is in our own eyes, who and what one really is. Not what we can do for others, or what place we hold on the social scale, it’s not our job, or our status, it’s you …. you as a person, what you are inside that matters. 

Job titles or status, are wrong. None of that has anything to do with who and what we are. So whatever your pathway is, it’s for you and you alone to decide that. Once you have decided it, and accept the reality behind it, then you have a clear inner mirror, your self-worth is rock solid, as it’s based on your own personal thoughts.

The more we feel good, the more we love our self and the more we love yourself the more positive things will come our way, since we will be receptive to them.When we start looking within and celebrating the Truth of who we truly are, then we can celebrate our unique differences instead of judging them out of fear.

Ways To Handle Stress

~ Get up 15 minutes earlier.

~ Prepare for the morning the night before.

~ Don’t rely on your memory… write things down.

~ Make Duplicate keys.

~ Say “No” more often.

~ Set priorities in your life.

~ Avoid negative people.

~ Always make copies of important papers.

~ Look at problems as challenges.

~ Believe in yourself.

~ Develop a sense of humor.

~ Have goals for yourself.

~ Say Hello to a stranger.

~ Strive for excellence, not perfection.

~ Maintain your weight.

~ Always have a Plan B.

~ Learn to meet your own needs.

~ Become a better Listener.

~ Know your limitations and let others know them too.

~ Remember you always have options.

~ Get enough sleep.

~ Quit trying to fix other people.

~ Smile more.

~ Be prepared for the rain.

~ Relax, Take each day at a time… You  have the Best of your Life to live.

Qualities that Attract me..

I remember writing a blog post about my pet peeves about people. That felt nice – ranting about the irritating traits I see around me 🙂

Today, I want to acknowledge the positive traits of countless people around me – friends, relatives, strangers…… who have touched me with some sterling part of themselves.

This is my list-
1. Intelligence : Cannot help but notice and admire an intelligent person. Intelligence to me is not only knowledge but the ability to assimilate and understand facts and maybe use them in some form. What is even more appealing is humility in a knowledgeable person. Definitely a proudy showoff is very putting off.

2. Sense of humor: Those who can laugh and make others laugh are truly such wonderful company. Everyone likes to be surrounded with happiness. Witty humor is so good. Sometimes even empty humor with old friends is so much fun. Empty as in just talking stuff without much meaning but a lot of fun.

3. Sensitivity: I am sucker for genuine emotions. Sensitivity leads to understanding and empathy. Those who can relate to others’ pain, are sensitive to children, the unprivileged, animals and in general sensitive in the way they treat people around them are truly sensitive people. It does not take much to lose one’s temper or control. It takes a lot for someone to do the right thing and to stand up for the right thing.

4. Simplicity:  I saw a lot of showoffs, really artificial people. The quality which really strikes me is honest, down-to-earth simplicity. People who are loud in their dressing, their talk, are greedy are instant put-offs. I like normal people with simple wishes in life with grounded roots.

5. Trustworthiness: Those who know what to share and what not to. Among women mostly, it is my experience that any thing shared is thought to be meant for public consumption. Most women do not hesitate revealing someone else’s secrets publicly. Those who are able to exercise their discretion and are trustworthy enough not to reveal things easily are really hard to find these days.

6. Honesty: People in power who are not corrupt and even simple practices of taking only what is yours is such a sterling quality in these times of selfishness.

Power Of Prayer

The power of prayer should not be underestimated.

The power of prayer is not the result of the person praying. Rather, the power resides in the God who is being prayed to. It is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he shall hear us. And if we know that he hears us – whatever we ask – God answers, prayers that are in agreement with His will. His answers are not always yes, but are always in our best interest. When our desires line up with His will,  they are heard and become real. God knows exactly what we need this moment and gives us only that and nothing more or nothing less. He is the one who understands us completely and the deepest needs of our life. When we pray passionately and purposefully, according to God’s will, God responds powerfully!

Lord you know what is good for me, whatever you think and decide for me is the best for me, don’t give me what I desire, as I am still innocent, without complete knowledge and realization, I don’t know myself what is good and what is bad for me. You know it the best. In Your will is my true happiness.

Prayer is our communion with God, whether it is; a petition made to God, worship, repentance, praise, or thanksgiving. It doesn’t have to be a laid-out patent prayer, but words from the heart. God loves all of us, he knows our minds and hearts, so why not talk to him, he is already aware of every situation you are facing. So He is the best counselor and guide to give you solution to that situation.

God knows each thought we have, so why not go to Him and talk to Him as you would, if you were to meet any other friend on the street. Prayers do not have to be long, drawn out affairs, just be precise as He knows your story already.

Go ahead and talk to Him, it is never too late!!

Play Safe but Take a Risk, Make a Mistake..

I wish it happend in that way .. I wish I was able to get it.. I wish this, I wish that…

Daily life is full of wishes, everyone has some dreams and we all are running for them. We wish for something and start working for it and then we get tired of it. I always stuck with one thing that Can your dreams tire you up? I read somewhere a Yes.. My answer is No …
When we wish for something, we never try for it with full heart, we are never ready to take risks about our wishes, we want to play smooth without taking risks and making mistakes. Yes we are scared of Not Granting our Wish. That is a not so brave behavior. All of us have fears of making mistakes. With an optimistic approach, we all are humans and we are created to make mistakes.

If I start with the easiest thing, If you love someone, go and tell her. Max. worst that can happen is she would say a No. If she denies it go and try again. Max. worst can happen is she would slap you. But yeah then you will have no regret that you could never tell her, May be it was a yes from her side. If you are playing cricket and stroking slow with your bat thinking that you can out, but why can’t you think in a positive way that a hit can be a Six. If you are a businessman and you are scared of investing somewhere, you are a house wife and hesitant of cooking something different, it implies on anyone anywhere. We never think the worst scenario, we never play wise, we just want to win without effort and making mistakes.

For learning something new and grant our wishes to come true, we have to listen to our heart, take a risk and make mistakes, with keeping in mind the worst scenario (just to play safe). Now when I’m keep on preaching to make mistake, So make a mistake but never repeat the same.

‘A believer is never bitten twice from same hole.’ ~ Hadith

Never repeat your mistakes because you have already learned and now you are experienced. Yes try a new mistake and it can bring The Best in your life.

Just for the last note, Our Dreams can Never tire us up, they give us more strength to work hard and dream more.

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