Archive for September, 2019

A Thought on Friendships

Why do so many friendships break up even after years of being friends whereas new friends seem closer to you than family?

It has happened to all of us at one point of time or the other, Friends have been unresponsive or failed to come through, for no apparent reason. Sometimes it happens when you need them the most, Yet they choose to be silent.
I wonder why people do that. Is it because they do not know what to say? Or is it because of things going on in their own lives?
Whatever it is, I find it difficult to accept such behavior. May be it is because I would personally never do it and I judge everybody by the same high standards that I have set. May be these are what they call the “fair weather friends” — the ones who laugh with you when things are okay but choose to turn away the moment you have something sad. The good thing is that one knows who one’s true friends are, and one feels grateful to have such true friends. The bad thing is that it makes you feel like such a fool to have judged people so wrongly.

It’s a strange universe of fickle friendships.

We have come into an era where friends support you according to their needs. We are all aware that these relationships might not last forever and it’s probably for the best to have some friendships dissolve.
Always remind yourselves that it is not our fault when friends walk away. You cannot make someone stay in a friendship if they want to leave.

And today I can say with confidence that life is really too short to bother about the ones that left. What matters are the ones that are in your life, at this moment.

You can do nothing if people change.

All you can do is make new friendships, or hope like hell that your old rock-solid dependable ones, stay just so.

Accept What You Cannot Change

God, Grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

This serenity prayer is well known.

‘Things I have accepted’

– Friendships break. Even the deepest ones that you thought would last a life time.

– Even your best laid plans can fail. Things will not go the way you planned it.

– People do not reply back to your mails or do not answer your calls or texts because they no longer want you in their lives and not because they did not get your mails or did not get your texts.

– Just because you have the ability to put a fight behind you and carry no grudges it is not the same for everybody. Some people just do not forgive or forget.

– Something that is extremely important and of value to you, sometimes means absolutely nothing to others. They do not understand why it matters so much to you.

– People can stop talking to you for absolutely no reason at all. None from your perspective anyway.

– It is a ‘me-me-me’ world. For the other person a minor head-ache that they have will be more important than the death of your nearest ones.

– I am only human and I too have limited time. I have accepted that I have to say a no. I truly cannot cater to everyone’s request.

Some days I end up working non-stop for long hours, then sometimes I Wish I had a magic wand to speed up things🙂But.. this is the way how it works. I have accepted that too.

Could you connect with these things I mention here too, or is it just me?

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