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A Thought on Friendships

Why do so many friendships break up even after years of being friends whereas new friends seem closer to you than family?

It has happened to all of us at one point of time or the other, Friends have been unresponsive or failed to come through, for no apparent reason. Sometimes it happens when you need them the most, Yet they choose to be silent.
I wonder why people do that. Is it because they do not know what to say? Or is it because of things going on in their own lives?
Whatever it is, I find it difficult to accept such behavior. May be it is because I would personally never do it and I judge everybody by the same high standards that I have set. May be these are what they call the “fair weather friends” — the ones who laugh with you when things are okay but choose to turn away the moment you have something sad. The good thing is that one knows who one’s true friends are, and one feels grateful to have such true friends. The bad thing is that it makes you feel like such a fool to have judged people so wrongly.

It’s a strange universe of fickle friendships.

We have come into an era where friends support you according to their needs. We are all aware that these relationships might not last forever and it’s probably for the best to have some friendships dissolve.
Always remind yourselves that it is not our fault when friends walk away. You cannot make someone stay in a friendship if they want to leave.

And today I can say with confidence that life is really too short to bother about the ones that left. What matters are the ones that are in your life, at this moment.

You can do nothing if people change.

All you can do is make new friendships, or hope like hell that your old rock-solid dependable ones, stay just so.

Think About It. .

Most of us have been raised to ‘be nice’ to others. We have ingrained it to such an extent that we know no other way. Even when someone puts us down, we say to ourselves ‘Maybe they didn’t mean it that way..’

Here’s the thing: If you felt bad about something that someone said, what is important is not how they meant it, it is how YOU felt about it. People make insulting remarks, out of envy. Sometimes they are hidden. They are not direct references.

Someday your friend tells you about how stylish you looked. Then in the very next breath, they tell you about how your shoes did not match with your dress. Actually it was your choice, and that was the way you liked it.

I don’t think anyone has the right to comment upon other people’s choices! How they dress is upto them. If you do not approve, you can look the other way.

Comments from close friends are one thing. But when someone you barely know, puts you down, it’s time to ‘not be nice’. Just walk away.

Hello December!

Hello Beautiful People!

Can you believe it’s December?

As fast as this year has gone, I have to admit I love it when it’s time for the Christmas season.

Just like yesterday 2017 started and now 2018 is so close, I really thank God for everyone in my life including you guys and trust me when I’m counting all my blessings that I received this year, I’ll be sure to count you twice because you all are the best! 😍😍.

I mean it wasn’t always smooth, I had my fair share of stress,worries and all but you know what they say ‘your darkest hour comes before your dawn’ and so I knew God got me and that kept me going.

Some people might be feeling downcast because they feel 2017 came and now it’s gradually fading away without anything really changing.. Well, I have good news for you, a lot of things can still happen within 30 days, and so all you have to do is just relax, stay positive and believe in yourself!

Ego-‘Big Social Problem in India’

The ego is one of the most self-destructive mechanisms of a person’s character and his or her abilities. The ego is that which separates you from the Reality, from the Truth, from the ultimate Source. A person becomes a slave to his ego when he thinks of selfish gains. On the one hand, he is pulled by his selfish desires, and on the other, he is alarmed by his inner voice.

Ego driven people continually live in the past and always plan for the future. They never live in the moment. They are always thinking of the next great phase of their life, even when this one is perfect. 

In India, Ego can be termed as a big social problem. Most of the people are highly egoistic and did not want to compromise on it. Especially people, who rise to higher ranks or get high positions in society or become rich starts classifying themselves as different class of people than the rest of people. There are many examples where people use their power to exploit other because only they want to satisfy their own ego. Ego clash can be seen among people of same class. People are usually hurrying to criticize others, only because these people have hurt their ego.

In office rivalries are mostly result of hatreds grown due to ego clashes. Many bosses in Indian offices are more concerned with their own ego satisfaction rather than the benefits of company or government.

Ego problems are not restrained only up to office or societies but they are very well present inside Indian homes. Ego problems can be seen between all the relations of Father-son, husband-wife, brother-brother or brother-sister, no relations are left alone by the ego problem.In countries like America, the couples do household works together, but it is not the case in India. Here, women have to do the household works alone while the husbands sit in front of the TV or read the newspaper slouching in a couch. There are , of course, husbands who help wives, but majority of husbands fall into the other category. 

With the advent of new technologies and advancement in higher education, these problems are becoming even worse. Now days, a small school going boy or girl also have big ego to satisfy.  It looks that people have forgotten the art of forgiving and respect for others. We are only and only concerned with our and only our ego.

The most important step towards self-transformation is to shed one’s ego. When you can learn to let go of the ego, the level of success and fulfillment you will achieve will be dramatic.

Qualities that Attract me..

I remember writing a blog post about my pet peeves about people. That felt nice – ranting about the irritating traits I see around me 🙂

Today, I want to acknowledge the positive traits of countless people around me – friends, relatives, strangers…… who have touched me with some sterling part of themselves.

This is my list-
1. Intelligence : Cannot help but notice and admire an intelligent person. Intelligence to me is not only knowledge but the ability to assimilate and understand facts and maybe use them in some form. What is even more appealing is humility in a knowledgeable person. Definitely a proudy showoff is very putting off.

2. Sense of humor: Those who can laugh and make others laugh are truly such wonderful company. Everyone likes to be surrounded with happiness. Witty humor is so good. Sometimes even empty humor with old friends is so much fun. Empty as in just talking stuff without much meaning but a lot of fun.

3. Sensitivity: I am sucker for genuine emotions. Sensitivity leads to understanding and empathy. Those who can relate to others’ pain, are sensitive to children, the unprivileged, animals and in general sensitive in the way they treat people around them are truly sensitive people. It does not take much to lose one’s temper or control. It takes a lot for someone to do the right thing and to stand up for the right thing.

4. Simplicity:  I saw a lot of showoffs, really artificial people. The quality which really strikes me is honest, down-to-earth simplicity. People who are loud in their dressing, their talk, are greedy are instant put-offs. I like normal people with simple wishes in life with grounded roots.

5. Trustworthiness: Those who know what to share and what not to. Among women mostly, it is my experience that any thing shared is thought to be meant for public consumption. Most women do not hesitate revealing someone else’s secrets publicly. Those who are able to exercise their discretion and are trustworthy enough not to reveal things easily are really hard to find these days.

6. Honesty: People in power who are not corrupt and even simple practices of taking only what is yours is such a sterling quality in these times of selfishness.

My Favorite Steve Jobs Quotes

So who don’t know about him, he’s the name of success and greatness in his field. Steve Jobs.. to run a company like Apple and make it outstanding and the best, who transformed the worlds of personal computing, music and mobile phones, left us on Wednesday October 5th, 2011 at the age of 56 after a years-long battle with pancreatic cancer. It’s a big loss for Apple and for IT industry and every fan of Steve Jobs. So just for a tribute to Steve, I want to share some great quotes of Steve Jobs.

  1. A lot of companies have chosen to downsize, and maybe that was the right thing for them. We chose a different path. Our belief was that if we kept putting great products in front of customers, they would continue to open their wallets.
  2. Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.
  3. Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.
  4. People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully.
  5. To turn really interesting ideas and fledgling technologies into a company that can continue to innovate for years, it requires a lot of disciplines.
  6. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
  7. Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
  8. That’s been one of my mantras — focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.
  9. Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.
  10. Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me … Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.
  11. Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.

We’ll miss you Steve. May Your Soul Rest in Peace.

Dreams Do Come True – Susan Boyle

When she walked on to the stage to participate in Britain’s Got Talent, Susan Boyle encountered a very sceptical audience.

When she said her dream was to sing like Elaine Page she was almost booed at. But Susan Boyle had a dream and dreams do come true!

Watch this amazing performance and I dare you not to get teary eyed.

Here are some facts about Susan Boyle (according to The Mirror):

1. She’s 47 years old (nearly 48) and grew up in Blackburn, near Bathgate, West Lothian, Scotland

2. She lives in the same house that she and her eight older brothers and sisters grew up in. She even sleeps in the same room.

3. She’s never so much as been kissed. She told us: “If someone even pecked me on the cheek, it would be nice, but I’ve never even got that close,” says Susan. “My parents didn’t want me to have boyfriends, so I’ve never been on a date. I’ve had crushes, but I’ve never been in love. I suppose I’ve accepted it’s never going to happen.”

4. She lives with her 10-year-old cat named Pebbles.

5. Her mother kept asking her to audition for “Britain’s Got Talent.” When she died in 2007 at age 91, Susan says, “I realized I wanted to make her proud of me and the only way to do that was to take the risk and enter the show.” Her performance in the regional finals of Britain’s Got Talent was the first time she had sung after her mother’s death.

6. Susan’s unemployed and spends her days ‘looking after her home and visiting family.’

7. She left school at 17 and went to work in the kitchens of West Lothian College but now does voluntary work for the church and the elderly.

8. She has been singing in choirs since she was 12 and then in amateur dramatics. When she was 35, she took acting classes.

9. She says her dream is to sing for Queen Elizabeth.

10. During birth, Susan suffered oxygen deprivation which caused learning disabilities. Her classmates teased her because of this and her appearance.

Dreams do come true – I hope you’re still believing in yours?

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