Posts Tagged ‘happy’

Making Space!

Repeatedly I kept receiving this message on my phone: ‘Your device is low on space. Need to clear minimum……’. Busy in some work or the other, I continued to ignore the message.

As a result, the phone started slowing down. Various minor problems kept cropping up. So I had no other option but to take notice of it and check the contents.

So many unnecessary things were there. Some pics / videos that I had liked but had not time to view again; some I didn’t even know were there in my phone.

While clearing this junk, I found some similarity..

Doesn’t this apply to our mind, too? We gather so many things and continue to live with this baggage. Not all of these things are good or positive. But still we keep carrying this burden and it slows us down in every aspect. Our mind is so full with this clutter that new and better things cannot enter due to lack of space.

So if we don’t get rid of the unnecessary old things (like grudges, hurts, anger…) how can fresh, nice feelings find a place there?

Preaching is always lot easier than putting it into practice. Agreed. But at least realizing the need to discard the unwanted things and need to create space can be a first step.

Don’t worry,Be happy~Specially for Indian Women

Chetan Bhagat’s Article in Times Of India~ Specially for Indian Women.

Do Read it and share it with all the women in your life.

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Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world:  87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.

What are we doing to our women? ! I’m biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers,sisters,daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends – we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?

Yet, look at how we Indians, a land of spiritual people, treat them. At an extreme, we abort girls before they are born, neglect them in their upbringing, torture them, molest them, sell them, rape them and honour-kill them. Of course, these criminal acts are performed by a tiny minority.

However, a majority of us are involved in lesser crimes. We judge, expect too much, don’t give space and suffocate our women’s individuality. Imagine if you did this to men – won’t they be stressed out?

At a broader level, this isn’t just about our women. We Indians have a habit of exploiting anyone without power.

For now, I want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels.

One, Don’t ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn’t like you? That’s her problem.

Two, If you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn’t value you – tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.

Three, Educate yourself, learn skills, network – figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Four, Do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can’t score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don’t make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don’t work until midnight and don’t get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Five, Most important, don’t get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbour may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don’t – big deal. Do your best, but don’t keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don’t expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain – stress.

So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return.

The next time this survey comes, I don’t want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world. Now smile, before your mother-in-law shouts at you for wasting your time reading the newspaper.

Cherish Womanhood !!! 🙂

Be Happy for others

I read an article recently that talked about how people find a secret satisfaction in seeing others fail, especially if those people happen to be your competitors. Whether its your friends or co-workers or family members, if they are comparable to you in any way and they do better than you at something it causes a person to feel jealous. I suppose its hard to watch someone else do better than you.

But does feeling good about other’s failures not reflect on your own status? If you are happy with your life, would you really feel the need to be unhappy about other’s good fortune or feel good about other’s misfortune? How does that alter your own life? What difference does it really make to you? If someone else is dumber than you, it might make you feel smarter in the moment but in the long run it would only limit your intelligence. If someone else is poorer than you, it might make you feel rich in comparison but your actual wealth would not change. If someone else is uglier than you, you might feel prettier when you are around them but what happens when you are out among others?

I know its human nature to want the best for yourself, to have that slight competitive spirit, to want to do better than others and succeed in all your endeavours. There is nothing wrong with that but if you focus more on your personal goals & satisfaction instead of evaluating your success by constant comparison to others, wouldn’t you come out happier? When I see my friends and family succeed, I’m genuinely happy for them. I feel proud of the fact that they are in my life. I love to be happy for other’s happiness. Everyone deserves a little bliss and joy multiplies with people. I hope people can put aside their own agendas from time to time and enjoy the happiness in being happy for others 🙂

Search For Happiness …

“Bagiya bagiya balak bhage, tettli phir bhi haath na lage,
Is pagle ko kaun bataye, dhoond raha hai jo tu jag mein,
Koi jo paaye to mann mein hi paaye”

 

I have been searching for happiness…..all in the world….I found nothing…

Someone told me dat happiness is in making others happy,I made others happy ,but still my search didn’t end… Another one said dat happiness is a matter of love…love sum1 n u’ll feel happy, I did dat also…..n all I got is sadness n pain. My search, still continues.. Others said to wait for it, I waited soooo long…but it never came to me. Not knowing what to do..

I sat in peace n ask my heart dat what is the matter? Why after doing so many things, m still unhappy? Why I always chase for happiness n get nothing…

My heart said silently….”The day when u start to live widout any expectations, The day when u start living for me(my heart), The day when u start understanding the meaning of life, The day when u start living for urself…..U’ll get what all u want. Expectations hurts, Company of others makes u lonely, and past gives u pain…. So start living for urself, live for today, U are the one who can make urself happy……”

And then I found dat he was right…… My heart whom I have been ignoring for so long, is d reason why m alive, after giving so much pain n chaos to it, it still beats for me,,, supports me, trust me, undertsands me.

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