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Don’t worry,Be happy~Specially for Indian Women

Chetan Bhagat’s Article in Times Of India~ Specially for Indian Women.

Do Read it and share it with all the women in your life.

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Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world:  87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.

What are we doing to our women? ! I’m biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers,sisters,daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends – we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?

Yet, look at how we Indians, a land of spiritual people, treat them. At an extreme, we abort girls before they are born, neglect them in their upbringing, torture them, molest them, sell them, rape them and honour-kill them. Of course, these criminal acts are performed by a tiny minority.

However, a majority of us are involved in lesser crimes. We judge, expect too much, don’t give space and suffocate our women’s individuality. Imagine if you did this to men – won’t they be stressed out?

At a broader level, this isn’t just about our women. We Indians have a habit of exploiting anyone without power.

For now, I want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels.

One, Don’t ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn’t like you? That’s her problem.

Two, If you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn’t value you – tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.

Three, Educate yourself, learn skills, network – figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Four, Do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can’t score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don’t make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don’t work until midnight and don’t get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Five, Most important, don’t get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbour may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don’t – big deal. Do your best, but don’t keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don’t expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain – stress.

So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return.

The next time this survey comes, I don’t want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world. Now smile, before your mother-in-law shouts at you for wasting your time reading the newspaper.

Cherish Womanhood !!! 🙂

Is Woman Really Free?

No more eyebrows are raised at the thought of a woman going out to work. Thanks to the various organizations, authors and feministic critics who have struggled a lot for the freedom of woman.

Apparently a woman is free enough to pursue her wishes.She has ventured and succeeded in all the fields of knowledge. In the present state of society, woman is walking equal steps to man. Women’s position, both inside and outside the house, has been changed and elevated from that of the position what our grandmother and mother had tolerated. But if the entire situation is placed under scrutiny then an altogether different picture will appear before us. Actually we will find that the position of women is no better than before.

Still in India the birth of a baby-boy to a baby-girl gives more pleasure to many parents. There are many such parents who pamper their sons while deprive their daughters from basic needs. It is believed that women are weak, both physically and mentally.Though the mental strength of women varies but the fact of feminine physical weakness, cannot be ruled out completely. The biological structure of women has tied their hands. For men she has always been an object of lust and desire. Her structure itself has prohibited women from many activities. A woman cannot travel alone at night or she cannot go to any unknown places. Woman is always exposed to the risk of deflowering.

All along women are taught to acquire the so-called qualities of a woman like susceptibility of heart, delicacy of sentiment and refinement of taste which are again synonymous with label of weakness. It is expected that a girl should be a goddess of meekness and mercy. It is as if the duty of women to forgive men for any of their crimes. Again the qualities like bravery, courage and rashness are called masculine. The girl’s formal lessons at home prepares her to acquire the femininity.

In a woman’s life marriage plays a very crucial role.A lot of changes take place in her life. They face a different situation in life. But their slavery only changes from their father to husband. As before marriage a girl is supposed to listen to her father so after marriage a good wife should listen to her husband. All the vital decisions of the house are always taken by the male members of the family. Marriage itself is an institution of intolerance.

In many countries, still men and women are paid unequal wages for equal works. If it is seen honestly, we will find that women work more than men. In case of working women, the problem is worse. They have to do all the works, both inside and outside of the house. Moreover they have the additional work of child bearing, giving birth and rearing it.

Women face various kinds of hurdles in their life but domestic violence add to their woes. Domestic violence is prevalent in the lower class of people. Women have to withstand extreme punishments. There is no relief from her agonies.

There is a notion that women enhance the beauty of the house. Many women are also with this kind of concept. They find pleasure in thinking themselves the queen of the house.But actually their activities are only the outcome of their husband’s wishes. Housewives are financially dependent on their husbands. Even working women are not fully independent.

 

Is there any end of this lifelong oppression? When would they actually be free? Free of injustice and domination?

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