Is Woman Really Free?

No more eyebrows are raised at the thought of a woman going out to work. Thanks to the various organizations, authors and feministic critics who have struggled a lot for the freedom of woman.

Apparently a woman is free enough to pursue her wishes.She has ventured and succeeded in all the fields of knowledge. In the present state of society, woman is walking equal steps to man. Women’s position, both inside and outside the house, has been changed and elevated from that of the position what our grandmother and mother had tolerated. But if the entire situation is placed under scrutiny then an altogether different picture will appear before us. Actually we will find that the position of women is no better than before.

Still in India the birth of a baby-boy to a baby-girl gives more pleasure to many parents. There are many such parents who pamper their sons while deprive their daughters from basic needs. It is believed that women are weak, both physically and mentally.Though the mental strength of women varies but the fact of feminine physical weakness, cannot be ruled out completely. The biological structure of women has tied their hands. For men she has always been an object of lust and desire. Her structure itself has prohibited women from many activities. A woman cannot travel alone at night or she cannot go to any unknown places. Woman is always exposed to the risk of deflowering.

All along women are taught to acquire the so-called qualities of a woman like susceptibility of heart, delicacy of sentiment and refinement of taste which are again synonymous with label of weakness. It is expected that a girl should be a goddess of meekness and mercy. It is as if the duty of women to forgive men for any of their crimes. Again the qualities like bravery, courage and rashness are called masculine. The girl’s formal lessons at home prepares her to acquire the femininity.

In a woman’s life marriage plays a very crucial role.A lot of changes take place in her life. They face a different situation in life. But their slavery only changes from their father to husband. As before marriage a girl is supposed to listen to her father so after marriage a good wife should listen to her husband. All the vital decisions of the house are always taken by the male members of the family. Marriage itself is an institution of intolerance.

In many countries, still men and women are paid unequal wages for equal works. If it is seen honestly, we will find that women work more than men. In case of working women, the problem is worse. They have to do all the works, both inside and outside of the house. Moreover they have the additional work of child bearing, giving birth and rearing it.

Women face various kinds of hurdles in their life but domestic violence add to their woes. Domestic violence is prevalent in the lower class of people. Women have to withstand extreme punishments. There is no relief from her agonies.

There is a notion that women enhance the beauty of the house. Many women are also with this kind of concept. They find pleasure in thinking themselves the queen of the house.But actually their activities are only the outcome of their husband’s wishes. Housewives are financially dependent on their husbands. Even working women are not fully independent.

 

Is there any end of this lifelong oppression? When would they actually be free? Free of injustice and domination?

How difficult is to be like a woman?

We say that women are one of the greatest creatures of the mankind. There are lot of songs, stories, literatures and poems, which are written in admiration of them. However in reality when we see the actual condition of many women around us then all these things just look as false quotes. A woman plays a very important role in the expansion of mankind; it is difficult for any human to come in to this world without the support of her.

She feeds us in her womb for nine months and suffers all the pains without showing any sign of regret. She plays lot of other important roles in our lives without which it is not possible for us to live a happy life. However, still our behaviors toward women require a substantial change. A woman starts facing discrimination in life from her birth and this whole story continues till her death. Women even after so many years of development of mankind are not able to find any respectable place for themselves.

In India everyday, we can find many cases in which women are burned alive. Hundred of women are molested or raped every day around India. The difficulty with the women is that there is no place in world which is completely safe for them. Every man only believes them as the object of sexual satisfaction and nothing more. Many people around us only move as hunters with women as their pray. This is a question of vast shame for country like India where we give lot of respect to our mother and claim our country as our Mother.

We even worship women in the figure of many Goddesses; still we do not provide the much needed respect to the small innocent and insecure goddesses present among us. It is very heartening to give pain to one of the best creature of the god. Women are the only creature in this universe which is burned before their death. Women suffering are endless; it is only due to their great emotional power we are not able to see them.

Most of the time she remains in the sufferings but still she does not show her pain to others. It is a tough task to consider world without them, however the decreasing number of girl child shows some concerns. We need to come out of the double standards against the women and provide them with a good world to live.

Pet Peeves of Women

For any woman with a partner, boyfriend or husband, it seems like these are familiar complaints. In no particular order and completely in jest, here they are:

~ He never notices when I lose weight.
   He quickly notices when other females lose weight.

~ He is onto my case even if I gain a little weight and suddenly car parts like tires become a part of his regular vocabulary.

~ He is completely confused when asked how I am looking because he sincerely does not know if what I am wearing is new or if I have gone to a salon and done something to my face or God forbid something else that he has failed to notice. LOL

~ His frustration shows on his face when asked how a particular outfit looks on me. He doesn’t know how to diplomatically say that I am looking fat or that it does not suit me. 🙂

~ His compliments have decreased down the years, in the form of “you know me” diplomatic and insincere statements.

~ He does not remember most things including important dates and when I keep checking back if he has done some asignment, he says, “stop nagging!”

~ If someone compliments him that he has lost weight, he quickly takes that seriously but if the same is done to me, he says, “oh, I know better.” 🙂

~ He cooks one course and claims to cook the entire meal. In the bargain, he has left half the dishes in the house dirty.

~ He can spend hours in electronics stores among gadgets and consider that constructive. But, when I shop that is a waste of time.

~ His phone calls are all important whereas mine are mostly gossip.

~ He does not appreciate me often enough for all the “sacrifices” that I am making for the family.

What do you say ladies? Do you have any more to add or any you disagree with? And the men, I am sure you have your own list of pet peeves that I would love to hear 🙂

And trust me, other women notice everything. So, if you are looking for genuine motivation or demotivation, other lady friends and your children could be where you need to try your luck. Men are simply not tuned in to your crazy needs 🙂